In late 2020, I started to have infrequent periods. I chalked it up to the stresses of just finishing grad school and entering my profession during the COVID19 pandemic. Over the next 2 years, my periods would only dwindle and be increasingly unpredictable. In 2022, I started to notice some weight gain without a noteworthy change to my lifestyle.  I assumed the extra pounds were because I was now in my late 30s and 5 years into my relationship (you know how we can get comfortable). Simultaneously, my periods had become very inconsistent, with some ‘surprise’ heavier flows. My breasts were more tender, and I experienced an onset of mild cramps during menstruation – which were atypical for me. I don’t even recall having a period in 2023. And Sleep. Oh, sleep. For as long as I could remember I’ve not had quality sleep. I’d guess that I averaged less than 7 hours of sleep/night for years. No lie. I started to have hot flashes. When that happened, I told myself it was because of the weight gain, our uninsulated house, and because I don’t get enough quality sleep. My professional life was quite imbalanced, and I suspect my cortisol levels were through the roof. I’m generally an upbeat & happy person, but I started to have these huge outbursts with my partner. (I know disagreements and arguments happen; this was more than that). Although I’m generally a happy person, I am quite sensitive. Always have been. I’m grateful my partner and I had the willingness and tools to communicate through those moments. I digress. I was SO easily set off and quite irritable by things that, in the past, would not have bothered me. During the spring of 2024, I believe I was experiencing depression. If I’m being honest, I had some pretty dark thoughts that scared the shit out of me. I just didn’t understand why all these things were happening to my mind and body. FINALLY, in 2024, after my gal pals had been encouraging me (for years) to talk about all this with my gyno, I did. My doc requested blood work to have my hormone levels tested. Results came back and it was official – I was in menopause. Listen, I’m not a doctor, but it seems like when I viewed my results (in the online portal) it showed menopause markers as here, and I was waaaaay over here. Wild. That’s how it went for me. It was so easy to dismiss the symptoms or explain them away due to this life event or that stressful time. In the back of my mind, I thought, “I’m too young.” I even joked about being in menopause before I was diagnosed. I did cry when I discovered the results, but I also felt relieved. Otherwise, I would have called myself ‘crazy’ and that’s not the nicest way to perceive yourself.

Perimenopause is the period when you’re transitioning into menopause. Menstruation becomes more irregular and hormones are fluctuating. Symptoms you may experience during perimenopause: heavier flow, shorter cycle, breast discomfort, disrupted sleep, hot flashes, worsened headaches, marked mood swings, and/or weight gain without significant change in diet or exercise. Some women can experience perimenopause as early as their 30s. If your perimenopausal symptoms are not tolerable, I would suggest seeking medical attention from your physician. If you’re a holistic/non-Western medicine momma – see your holistic provider to discuss your specific perimenopause/menopause concerns, or ask for a referral to someone you can discuss these concerns with.

Menopause is that natural phase of life for women and indicates the end of reproductive abilities. There’s quite a drop in an important hormone, estrogen, which is reflected in those hallmark symptoms associated with menopause: hot flashes, mood fluctuations, decreased libido, and interrupted sleep.

Sometimes symptoms can be enough to realize you’re in menopause. In some cases, you may want your doctor to run blood tests to check your hormone levels.

Again, this blog is not meant to diagnose you friends. If you’re wondering, consult your physician/gynecologist. I’ve provided some resources below to potentially help those who may not currently have insurance, but want medical treatment.

Try findahealthcenter.hrsa.gov

Try healthcare.gov

Visit a Planned Parenthood

Visit a Community Health Center

Ask your medical provider about cash payments or payments plans

Check availability for Medicaid